tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15293886.post6126981956772272094..comments2023-05-18T05:06:41.827-04:00Comments on NIKTO NE ZABYT -- NICHTO NE ZABYTO: The Weird World of Torry Hansen: An Accusation from HayforkMarley Greinerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184124024369071862noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15293886.post-43952924934922137312012-11-16T12:55:53.891-05:002012-11-16T12:55:53.891-05:00Just a quick clarification, an adopted child does ...Just a quick clarification, an adopted child does not automatically become an american citizen. An adopted child is automatically eligible to become an american citizen, still the citizenship will only be effective when all the paperwork and proper procedures are taken and followed. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15293886.post-65119531324309956352010-04-21T11:41:22.402-04:002010-04-21T11:41:22.402-04:00The even stranger world of underground disrupt ado...The even stranger world of underground disrupt adoptions throughout the USA.<br />A post today of a recent offering of 2 children from Russia:<br /><br /><br />Three years ago, a family adopted a boy and his older sister. Immediately they felt that attachment was not going well for them or the children but they thought it would come in time if they just kept trying. Three months ago, they contacted me about disrupting but decided against it until they were 110% certain it was the right decision for the children. A few days ago they came to the realization that no matter how much they wanted to be, they are not the right family for their Russian born son and daughter. Here is what they wrote about them.<br /><br />"Our son is 10 years old and in 4th grade. We are in process of obtaining an IEP from the school district, but up until now, the district has been very unsupportive of his needs. He has been diagnosed with ADHD, RAD and Anxiety disorders. He has a low verbal reasoning IQ (~73) and low average IQ (88-100) in other areas. He is socially immature. He has impaired judgment and does not seem to understand the cause and effect of his actions. We feel that he would thrive in a family that could take the time to teach him. His actions are causing significant stress on the rest of our family, and we do not feel that we are able to meet his needs. On the bright side, our son is always happy, never violent, or mean spirited. He does not hold grudges. He is compliant, and does chores without complaining, and likes to participate in family activities. He enjoys soccer, gymnastics, video games, roller skating, bicycling. He has a very curious personality and asks lots of questions. He grew up in orphanages and spent almost no time with any family members.<br /><br />Our daughter is 12 and in 6th Grade. She is emotionally detached from us, particularly her mom. She was taken from her family's home, due to neglect, when she was just a little girl 5 years old. She goes in and out of happiness related to her family. She can seem like she is happy one minute and the next, she acts like she hates us. She seems to need a family who can devote a lot of time to showing her unconditional love. Having our two biological children in the house is difficult for her. She perceives them as always receiving more than she is getting (both material objects and love). It puts a strain on the interpersonal family relationships. We feel that the healthiest thing for her would be to be adopted along with her brother. She is an amazing artist! Some of her work looks almost professional. She does well in school (when she is self motivated), she has a large social circle and gets along with everyone. She is in Girl Scouts, Softball, soccer, cheerleading, takes piano. She would like to take art classes too. She likes to help with cooking. She enjoys music and likes to dance. Both kids love pets. "<br /><br />If your heart has been stirred after reading this, please let me know. If you know of anyone who would be interested in adopting these two children please share this info with them. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15293886.post-2980450907309297262010-04-20T20:41:38.802-04:002010-04-20T20:41:38.802-04:00Actually, Annonymous, I originally hail from the H...Actually, Annonymous, I originally hail from the Hansen's area of California. I'm not speaking as an outsider there, but an insider. Sorry I didn't make that clear.<br /><br />I found it ironic, and posted such to BD when the Hansen incident came out, that I was here in Idaho for the Baptist ten, and I lived for forty years an hour away from Hayfork. What are the odds?blueheronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12073089864842635639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15293886.post-15869468562179018542010-04-20T18:22:46.608-04:002010-04-20T18:22:46.608-04:00I guess in my mind it's never been a question ...I guess in my mind it's never been a question that the social workers and adoption agencies fail regularly with proper oversight of adoptions, and definitely failed in this case. I have noticed a lot of hind-quarter covering behaviors on their parts over this. I think Russia stopping the flow of children (and thus money) may help with this? <br /><br />However, the ability of this family to have good face, present well, and say/do all the right things to alleviate suspicion probably played a role in this mess. Just my theory.blueheronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12073089864842635639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15293886.post-76506854698062339892010-04-20T17:07:45.434-04:002010-04-20T17:07:45.434-04:00"They ring pretty true,though. Knowing the ar..."They ring pretty true,though. Knowing the area, knowing the different types of people who are drawn to the area, and matching that with their behavior in TN. I think as time goes on, we will hear more of the various versions of "the truth" and a mosaic will emerge.<br /><br />BlueHeron;<br />Ironically I noticed you were from Idaho? This area also draws some interesting people and behaviors:<br /> Laura Silsby, and the 9 Baptists that were jailed in Haiti for attempting to drive 30 Haitian children into the Domincan Republic are Idaho.<br /> Also there is a large compound of skin heads, white supremacists from Idaho. <br /><br />It's best we hold our judgement until we have the complete story, and hopefully at some point Ms. Hanson herself will come forward with a statement of facts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15293886.post-74858202371050212932010-04-20T17:02:56.895-04:002010-04-20T17:02:56.895-04:00If all that is truthful about Torry Hanson's h...If all that is truthful about Torry Hanson's home and family dynamics - why didn't the social worker note these issues in the home study report? <br /><br />I think there are both sides to every story. But lets not give the adoption agency and social worker a free pass on this. They accepted her money, they approved her for the adoption, they ENABLED this process without conducting due diligence.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15293886.post-26457323242966669352010-04-20T09:50:01.303-04:002010-04-20T09:50:01.303-04:00It could be the posts are damage control/attention...It could be the posts are damage control/attention draw, good point. <br /><br />They ring pretty true,though. Knowing the area, knowing the different types of people who are drawn to the area, and matching that with their behavior in TN. I think as time goes on, we will hear more of the various versions of "the truth" and a mosaic will emerge.blueheronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12073089864842635639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15293886.post-51845075521995850202010-04-20T09:29:10.553-04:002010-04-20T09:29:10.553-04:00It sounds like small town talk to me.It sounds like small town talk to me.Marley Greinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15184124024369071862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15293886.post-15597092436019166092010-04-19T23:14:10.664-04:002010-04-19T23:14:10.664-04:00Could be these posts are legit or it could be ther...Could be these posts are legit or it could be there are written by pro-adoption or agency workers to cast the blame on the "terrible adoptive mother" <br />and take the focus off of the controversy surrounding international adoptions and the drop in available countries and prospective adoptive clients?<br />I smell a tinge of "damage control"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com